A week at home alone with 5 kids - the horror!

"Because I Said So" column for The Commercial Appeal

Aug. 5, 2010

I'm going to have to ask you all to listen closely as I type this in a whisper. This week's column comes to you from deep within my walk-in closet, just off the bathroom.

This is one of the toughest times of the year for our household -- the week before the Memphis City Schools resume for the year. My wife, Kristy, teaches English at Central High School, and teachers are required to report to work one week before the students arrive to prepare for the coming year.

At least, that's what Kristy has always told me. She leaves here early in the morning and returns in the late afternoons smelling vaguely of textbooks and happy hour.

So this is my week alone on the front lines. It's the time for me to set aside work and other activities to see to the well-being of the children. As an extra bonus, I'm watching a friend's 3-year-old son as well. That means there are five of them out there. I can hear them through the closed closet and bathroom doors and the locked bedroom door beyond.

Any family, no matter its makeup, is about working together and cooperating to get through the trying times, and the children have done just that. Like the group of stranded ruffians in "Lord of the Flies," they've banded together and claimed the kitchen, living room and my office as their own ... (read more)

Economic downturn stokes home-cleaning services

Feature story for The Memphis Daily News

Aug. 2, 2010

For many people, having someone else to sweep floors and mop bathrooms might be considered a luxury, and possibly the first item crossed off any budget when the economy spirals downward and times get tough.

Kip Uhlhorn, co-owner of 2 Chicks and a Broom, has a different take, however. “If you’re working a lot more, I guess your personal time becomes more precious.”

“People are working two jobs or more hours, so instead of me going home at lunchtime to let the dog out, could you add that to the time allotted,” Kip’s wife, Kelly, said people ask her. “Also, people don’t want to spend their time on weekends cleaning their house.”

The Uhlhorns purchased the eco-friendly home-cleaning business 2 Chicks and a Broom, where Kelly had worked in the past, from Candace Mills in September 2008. They have managed in nearly two years to grow their client base to about 2,000 clients and have expanded their reach further east.

“We tripled the client base,” Kip said. “Everything is pretty comfortable now, as far as the flow of new clients, but for a while there we were just too slammed for the amount of people we have.” ... (read more)

Love of running inspires unique tour company

Small Business Spotlight for The Memphis Daily News

July 26, 2010

John Lintner loves to run.

“I run about four to six miles a day, and nine to 10 miles on the weekends,” he said. “I’ve run four marathons.”

A certified personal trainer and head of sales for Breakaway Running’s bulk embroidery division, Lintner recently trained his wife, Crissy, for her first major race, the 13.1-mile Germantown Half Marathon.

“Whenever we weren’t fighting, it was fun,” John Lintner said.

The two newlyweds – married last September – have recently taken their love of running, the outdoors and a healthy lifestyle to a new level by starting Rockin’ Running Tours.

The idea is simple: take visitors to the city on a three- or six-mile tour of Downtown Memphis at their own pace, at street level, where they can take the time to see all there is to see.

There are several ways to see the sights of Downtown, including horse and carriage tours, a riverboat ride on the Mississippi River and Backbeat Tours, a music-themed tour company ... (read more)

A new trail, and a path forward

Feature story for the Summer 2010 Memphis Crossroads magazine

Long-awaited greenline links city neighborhoods with parks - exactly the type of asset employers say they need to make Memphis more attractive for workers.

Putting kids to work is its own reward

"Because I Said So" column for The Commercial Appeal

July 22, 2010

When my wife and I made the decision to have children, we considered cherubic smiles, a house full of love, the legacy of family and free labor. And it is only now, nearly 13 years later, that I am drawing up plans for daily chores for my four kids. It's long overdue, yet the mere thought of it makes all these years and the trials of parenthood worth it.

Free labor. It gives those of us with kids who are long past that cute, big-eyed stage of babyhood something to continue to appreciate. It's the baby-head smell of adolescent children.

The timing is not arbitrary; it's being synchronized with the beginning of school in a few weeks. My idea is to heap misery upon misery and to then pass the cause of so much upheaval on their schools. I can't carry this burden alone. With that in mind, I gathered my flock in close and proposed the idea of daily work, and the first question, the only question, really, was "How much do we get paid?"

I opened my mouth to answer, and the voice that came out, as though channeled from a different era, one of disco and gasoline rationing, was that of a woman a bit younger than I, speaking to her own 8-year-old son.

"You have a roof over your head," I heard my mother saying ... (read more)

Jurex's Rudolph unites nursing and legal professions

Memphis Standout story for The Memphis Daily News

July 16, 2010

Elizabeth Rudolph used her training as a nurse and an attorney to found Jurex, a Memphis-based company that trains nurses to be expert witnesses, review medical records in legal cases and become legal nurse consultants.

She developed the course in four formats: live, which is usually two full days of instruction, and by video, audio or an online e-course.

“What the course teaches is the legal and the marketing knowledge, and that’s combined with the nurse’s nursing knowledge,” Rudolph said. “The course comes with 15 accredited continuing education credits.” ... (read more)

Jim's Place East finds new home on Perkins

Spot news story for The Memphis Daily News

(with Eric Smith)

July 15, 2010

Jim’s Place East – a Memphis tradition since its founding nearly 90 years ago – is opening a location at Poplar Avenue and Perkins Road, having signed a 10-year lease for the 5,900-square-foot space that recently housed Harold’s women’s boutique.

The restaurant, a popular site for events such as wedding receptions, parties, business meetings and intimate dinners, has operated at 5560 Shelby Oaks Drive since 1976.

The move is a relocation from Shelby Oaks, yet the current location will remain open until the doors open this fall at 518 Perkins Road Extended.

“We want people with special memories to know that we’ll continue to operate the current location and that people should come back and visit,” said Sam Taras, son of co-owner, Dimitri Taras ... (read more)

Development partners reunite on Midtown project

Spot news story for The Memphis Daily News

July 13, 2010

Community Capital and Architecture Inc. have teamed up again, this time to build Community Capital’s new headquarters at 1708 Monroe Ave. between South Belvedere Boulevard and South Evergreen Street.

Located just behind Outdoors Inc. and half a block from Idlewild Presbyterian Church, the area is zoned commercial, although the new office space of Community Capital is designed to look like homes in the area and will keep the integrity and feel of the Midtown neighborhood.

“It’s primarily commercial use in there, but many of the buildings are converted residential structures, so in talking to OPD (the city-county Office of Planning and Development), they felt that going into that area with an office-type building would be inappropriate and they asked us to design a building that would be more residential in appearance, so that’s what we did,” said David Schuermann, lead architect on the project and co-owner of Architecture Inc.

Community Capital, whose president is Archie Willis III, is a boutique firm offering real estate financing, development prospectus packages, financial and affordable housing advising to municipalities and private companies alike. The firm also develops real estate ... (read more)

A lasting legacy: Body-donor program helps MERI train doctors in new techniques

Feature story in The Commercial Appeal

July 11, 2010

The next time you or a loved one is to undergo surgery, consider that the performing physician may have been trained on that procedure or the procedure itself may have been developed right in the heart of Midtown Memphis.

Located near Union Avenue and Cleveland, the Medical Education & Research Institute — MERI — is conducting hands-on teaching and training for physicians who travel to Memphis from across the country and around the world. At the forefront of this education is the use of cadavers donated through the Genesis Donor Program for the express purpose of furthering medical know-how.

"Our mission is to impact patient safety and ensure that physicians have a way to learn the new procedures," said Diana Kelly, manager of institutional development at MERI. "They are able to come here and practice on an uninvolved cadaver before they work on us. That's a much-preferred method."

The old adage "practice makes perfect" applies to sports and the arts, but possibly no place is it more apropos than in the medical field with those who take our lives in their hands on a daily basis.

"These techniques and improvements are coming at us very quickly, and there's constantly a new and better way to do a surgical practice, so that's where we come into play," Kelly said.

MERI is a nonprofit, state-of-the-art facility begun 15 years ago through the inspiration of Dr. Kevin Foley and as a joint venture of Baptist Memorial Healthcare Corp., Methodist Le Bonheur Healthcare Corp. and Semmes-Murphey Neurologic and Spine Institute ... (read more)

In playbook of parenting, patience is the goal

"Because I Said So" column in The Commercial Appeal

July 8, 2010

What is patience?

I'm not getting philosophical; I seem to have lost mine and am having trouble even recalling what it is.

I had it here somewhere, sometime before summer break and a house full of children every day.

Summer 2010 means only one thing, and if your family is anything like mine, then you've been gripped by World Cup soccer for the past month. I've used the matches and brackets as a forum for teaching my kids about patience, that elusive quality of the long sufferer.

Soccer is the sport of waiting, of passing, looking and hoping. I'm not sure my kids are completely on board with the game, though, as I heard 12-year-old Calvin leave the room the other day and tell younger brother Joshua, "Call me if anybody scores." ... (read more)

Ewing Carruthers, insurance agent

My Profession story for The Commercial Appeal

July 6, 2010

Ewing Carruthers shows up at his office 5 1/2 days, each and every week.

Nothing remarkable about that -- except Carruthers is 93 years old and he has been at it a long time.

"I've been working since I was 12 years old," Carruthers said. "I enjoy it. It's rewarding. And it pays well."

Since 1939, Carruthers has sold insurance for Mass Mutual and recently was inducted into the Estate Planning Hall of Fame by the National Association of Estate Planners & Councils.

Born in 1917, he grew up in Evergreen in a house built by his grandparents at the corner of Evergreen and Autumn, near Overton Park where his grandfather, A.B. Carruthers, tethered a black bear named "Natch" to a tree, the beginning of what would later become the Memphis Zoo. Nearby is a small street named for his family of land developers who also had a hand in developing the Evergreen neighborhood ... (read more)

For the Kids of Cooper St. in Midtown, business as usual all in the family

Feature story for The Commercial Appeal

July 1, 2010

While many kids spend their summers vegging out poolside, at camp or in front of the television, a group of children, let's call them the Kids of Cooper Street, are chopping vegetables, greeting customers and shelving inventory at some of Memphis' favorite haunts.

At 4 years old, she will probably change her mind on careers dozens of times before adulthood, but right now Ayden Smith, daughter of Ben and Colleen Smith, owners of the Cooper-Young restaurant Tsunami, has a goal.

"Ayden has decided that she wants to be a chef," Colleen said, "and with that Montessori upbringing, she's very hands-on and literally can sit down with a very sharp knife and chop things up without cutting herself."

She's too young to run her own restaurant just yet, but the environment of a small business is a good one to spend time in, according to her mother. It keeps her engaged and entertained.

"She's very interested in that (cooking), and when she's here and just bored out of her mind, we can send her into the kitchen to peel some potatoes or slice bananas." ... (read more)

Casting out our kids in oceans of the world

"Because I Said So" column in The Commercial Appeal

June 24, 2010

Abby Sunderland, a 16-year-old from California, recently ended her attempt to circumnavigate the globe when a wave broke the mast of her sailboat. Successful completion would have matched the record, which once belonged to Abby's brother Zac, currently held by 16-year-old Australian Jessica Watson.

There was endless debate before Abby Sunderland left, and since her rescue in the Indian Ocean, over whether she should have been allowed to attempt such a feat at all.

In May, 13-year-old Jordan Romero of Big Bear, Calif., became the youngest person to scale Mt. Everest, part of a growing trend of younger and younger adventure seekers. When he reached the peak, Romero used his cell phone to call his mother.

Kristy and I were surprised to learn this past week that our 12-year-old had signed on to Facebook. Calvin has weighed anchor and set his sails for a vast cyber-sea where unknown dangers lurk, prompting his mother and me to hold conferences and debates over how to best handle his foray into a new chapter of passive socializing. And it seems like only yesterday he got his first cell phone.

The computer in the home office is now a reason for worry for parents of my generation ... (read more)

Vacation filled with selective memories

"Because I Said So" column for The Commercial Appeal

June 10, 2010

Dateline: Florida panhandle, toes in sand.

I will turn this column around right now. Just a warning to you readers that if you can't behave, if you're raucous, inconsiderate or argumentative, I will turn around and take you all back home and we'll just forget about this week's column.

By the time you read this, I will be home from a family vacation to Inlet Beach, sandwiched serenely between Panama City and Rosemary Beach. Once again, we escaped from work, reality, school and the day in and day out of our every day. The stuff of real life.

Natural selection is a function of evolution. Selective memory is a function of parenthood. It's what allows us to take these four kids, sprung from my wife, and pack them into a womb-like minivan for a nine- to 10-hour drive (I missed a turn in Alabama) to the gulf coast.

Selective memory is how Charles Darwin was able to take his family aboard the H.M.S. Beagle every summer to the Bluefoot Resort at Galapagos Beach (I will research this further when I'm off vacation) ... (read more)

In social networking, 'unfriending' is popular option when coversation turns unfriendly

Lifestyle feature for The Commercial Appeal

June 5, 2010

Virginia Ivy, former Memphian and current resident of the Ozark Mountains in Arkansas, was raised with true Southern manners to believe that it is in poor taste to discuss politics, religion or money in social situations that are not specifically geared to those conversations.

"I started out on Facebook posting my political positions, but have since weaned off of it since I do not appreciate others' opinions opposite of mine when I am logging on for social stress relief," said the 39-year-old virtual manager for a New York corporate travel agency. "I un-friend people who post or link to hateful things."

Debate swirls over privacy concerns and information sharing on Facebook, but navigating the social network also leads to other questions, including those of etiquette -- what to talk about and how much to talk about it.

Certainly there is a decorum to be followed in face-to-face social situations, whether a dinner party, play date or actual date, but what of the fairly faceless medium of social media? Do the same rules apply and to what outcome? ... (read more)

First Tennessee Foundation

Corporate giving story for The Commercial Appeal

June 2, 2010

The First Tennessee Foundation recently spread good fortune across its namesake state with grants totaling more than $80,000 to 95 nonprofit groups through the foundation's Leadership Grants program. Memphis area organizations received $33,500.

The Leadership Grants program also encourages bank employees to serve on the boards of nonprofit groups and offers amounts of $500 to board members and $1,000 to board officers to be contributed to the nonprofit organizations of their choice.

In 2009, 72 First Tennessee employees participated in board service.

"If you went around our state and looked at the market presence in each of our major markets, for the most part they (employees) have been chairpersons of United Way, the chambers and involved with the universities," said Charles Burkett, president of banking with First Tennessee ... (read more)

Sickle cell fundraiser Mark Yancy knows disease firsthand

Inside story profile for The Commercial Appeal

May 31, 2010

To sit across from Mark Yancy, you wouldn't realize he is in pain. Chances are good, however, that he is.

"I try not to think about it, but I'm in pain every day in some type of way," he said. "You just get used to it and you deal with it."

And to sit and talk with him, you might not realize that the 32-year-old is not a medical professional trained in the debilitating effects of sickle cell disease on the human body. Yet having been diagnosed with the disease at 11 months old, Yancy understands it all too clearly.

"Education is paramount," he said. "There's not a gizmo or piece of surgical equipment that does wonders for sickle cell, it's simply having that knowledge of how to effect this disease." ... (read more)

Flying high

Memphis in May festivities end with air show

Spot news story for The Memphis Daily News

May 21, 2010

Airplanes seen flying through the skies is a part of the daily tableau for Memphians. Odds are they are FedEx or Delta planes lining up for landing or beginning an ascent into the clouds at any hour of the day.

But anyone who looked closely this weekend might have seen the bright red stunt plane of Fagen Inc. turning loops and performing corkscrew maneuvers over the Downtown skyline.

Saturday’s Memphis in May Sunset Symphony and air show this Saturday ended the month-long festivities.

The air show has been part of the Sunset Symphony, the longest-running program for Memphis in May, since 2007. Diane Hampton, executive vice president of Memphis in May, said it usually draws some 25,000 spectators.

“It’s part of a whole day of family entertainment,” Hampton said of the air show ... (read more)

Cockadoos brings southern spirit to downtown

Small business spotlight for The Memphis Daily News

May 31, 2010

Between John Bradley Wells and his wife, Lana, the two have nearly 40 years of experience in the restaurant business.

He owned Como Steak House in Como, Miss., for 10 years, worked for B.B. Kings for six years and has been general manager of Huey’s Downtown for the past four years. Lana was a nationwide corporate trainer for Ruby Tuesday and general manager of the Wolfchase location.

Their latest foray into the restaurant business brings them to the intersection of Union Avenue and Second Street, just steps from the Huey’s John Wells managed, and a place called Cockadoos.

“Being Downtown for the last 10 years or so, I always had people asking me where they could get breakfast and with nothing right here on this main drag that did breakfast, we just felt like it was a great opportunity,” he said.

Breakfast at Cockadoos includes Belgium waffles, Texas French toast, buttermilk pancakes and, of course, grits, as well as cathead biscuits and gravy, and catfish and grits. In addition to the traditional fare, a coffee bar is also on site for caffeine fiends.

“We have the full array of the lattes and cappuccinos,” Wells said. “We wanted to make sure that we covered the whole gambit as it pertained to breakfast, so we wanted to offer all the coffees as well. Our coffee is a small roaster out of St. Louis called Mississippi Mud Coffee.”

The restaurant is only three doors south of Union on Second, in the building that used to house Café 61. The walls have been painted a light yellow, with some left bare brick, and bright floral patterns adorn the tablecloths and throw pillows in the two seating areas filling the two large bay windows looking out on the foot traffic. A mezzanine balcony overlooks the main floor of the dining room ... (read more)

School's out, so is structure for the summer

"Because I Said So" column for The Commercial Appeal

May 27, 2010

My family and I began our summer season last Saturday with the first weekend of the Levitt Shell's free concert series in Overton Park.

We spent the evening on a quilt spread in the grass listening to Jimbo Mathus perform his home-grown Delta music for a home-grown crowd.

It was the perfect evening as we lay there listening to songs about Skateland and cornbread, with the park and zoo as backdrop and a FedEx plane aligning itself for landing. The scene couldn't have been more Memphis-centric if Elvis and Isaac had shown up to serve barbecue.

The kids danced like little hipsters and I regaled them with a story of the time I spotted Jimbo from two checkout lanes away at the Midtown Schnucks.

Saturday night was the calm before my summer storm. School ended for the year only three days later and, just like that, our children's teachers expect us to take care of these kids all day long. We'll have to feed them, entertain them and see that they're safe.

It's going to be like a full-time job. The pay is terrible ... (read more)

Health partnership sights poor

Spot business news for The Commercial Appeal

May 22, 2010

Baptist Memorial Healthcare Corp. kicked off its partnership with one of America's leading vision benefits companies, Davis Vision of Plainview, N.Y., to provide eye screenings to the homeless and underserved of Memphis.

"The Focus on America program targets children and adults underinsured or not insured at all," said Laura Dyer of Davis Vision. "This is not a one-time thing. This is the kickoff of a partnership that will provide glasses on a monthly basis."

Those who failed eye exams were either given vouchers for reduced-cost eyeglasses from any local retailers who work with Davis Vision, or free glasses in cases of homelessness. An average pair of glasses, according to George Yanoshik Jr. of Davis Vision, is $293.

"If you can't see, it's hard to fill out a job application or find your way out in the community," said Baptist Memorial Healthcare president and CEO Stephen Reynolds ... (read more)

Technology takes Ridgeway Middle music to new level

Spot news story for The Memphis Daily News

May 21, 2010

The walls of a cinderblock city school classroom in East Memphis are hung with posters of John Coltrane, King Oliver, Otis Redding, Elvis Presley, Billie Holiday and a 78-inch interactive whiteboard called an ActivBoard.

In a medium whose foundation is built on the bar chords of the blues and sound of the sax, technology has been introduced to engage children and introduce them to those a world away in Ken Greene’s music class.

Greene, music teacher and choir director at Ridgeway Middle School, recently demonstrated how technology is used to teach students and connect with other programs.

“Do you mind if we jam with you?” Greene asked his counterpart from Weyanoke Elementary School in Fairfax, Va ... (read more)

Strategy for growth: Jackson builds on strong corporate, federal business to expand nationally

My Profession story for The Commercial Appeal

May 19, 2010

After years away for college and work, Laurita Jackson returned to Memphis to be closer to family and raise her children in the South.

She moved home in 2003 to work for the family business, Memphis Chemical & Janitorial Supply Company, and took over as president in the beginning of May, bringing aboard a commitment to her employees and community.

"It's great working for a family business," Jackson said. "One of the things that allows us to make it work is we have a saying, 'We do what's best for the enterprise,' and that allows us to make the right decisions for the company, and also maintain our family relationships."

Memphis Chemical is a distributor of janitorial supplies, cleaning chemicals and cleaning equipment, in addition to servicing that cleaning equipment. Distribution ranges from throughout the city to nationally for some FedEx facilities and customers in the federal government such as the departments of Energy and Veterans Affairs.

"We are locally based but we do have the capability to ship nationwide, and we do that," she said ... (read more)

'Change is inevitable'

Spot news reporting for The Memphis Daily News

May 14, 2010

Expo encourages job seekers to adapt -- even when discouraged

“They aren’t making buggy whips anymore.”

That’s what Tom Wilson, career counselor for careerhands.com, tells people who have lost or left jobs and are looking for something else in the workplace.

He then brings it around to the 21st century: “They aren’t making electric typewriters anymore, either.”

The message he conveyed at Thursday’s Second Annual Opportunity Expo at The Pink Palace Museum was one conveyed throughout the day-long event’s seminars and by speakers and company representatives on hand to talk to job seekers about potential opportunities.

OppCity.com, a job-listing site for the Memphis area currently attracting 250,000 hits a week from all over the country, put on the expo, which was sponsored by the local Talent Trust Foundation ... (read more)

With chicken, it's better to be done than good

"Because I Said So" column for The Commercial Appeal

May 13, 2010

My cooking philosophy, and the title of my proposed cookbook, is "Burn Until Raw."

When I was 13 years old, my aunt put a match to charcoal and taught me how to make the perfect barbecue chicken. For a while I cooked it pretty well, too, but it's a skill I've lost over time. My chicken comes off the rack black and crispy as though pulled from deep inside the grill. When I cut into it, the kids are horrified by the sight. Poultry was never meant for medium rare.

In the time I've been a father, and the shorter time I've worked from home, I've become a pretty fair housewife. I get the kids up and dressed for school in the morning, do the bulk of the laundry and most of the dishes. I try to keep things tidy.

And, despite pleas for the opposite, I've been trying to cook more. Cook more, mind you, for one kid who eats nothing but cheese pizza and another who would eat his own weight in macaroni and cheese every night if allowed ... (read more)

Hutchison 8th-graders get long-distance lesson in global awareness

Feature profile for The Commercial Appeal

May 11, 2010

John Stephany traveled nearly 7,000 miles to teach his eighth-grade students at Hutchison School a lesson.

Stephany, a world history teacher, recently visited South Korea with the Group Study Exchange, a program aimed at promoting cultural awareness for 25- to 40-year-old professionals.

The four young professionals chosen for this trip by the sponsoring organization, Rotary International district 6800 of Germantown, include an auditor, logistics manager with Smith & Nephew, a publicist with Le Bonheur Children's Hospital and Stephany, who used the experience to teach his students back home about life in other cultures.

"Rotary is about trying to encourage communication, cultural awareness and things of this nature," Stephany said.

Even before Stephany was chosen for the trip, the world history curriculum at Hutchison was being expanded farther east from China and India to Korea and Japan. "I applied for this trip before I knew this was happening."

Stephany is no newcomer to travel; he has spent the last five summers teaching high school seniors at the School of Public Service at St. Albans School in Washington. He has also "bummed around Ireland," spent time backpacking around western Europe and visiting Germany, Prague and Poland. He visited China in 2008 on a trip sponsored by the Columbia University National Consortium for Teaching About Asia that also acted as a teaching tool for his students back home. He sees his time in Korea as an extension of that trip and an addendum to any textbook he might quote ... (read more)

Boys & Girls Clubs investing in children

Corporate giving story for The Commercial Appeal

May 10, 2010

Service Assurance, a Memphis-based information technology support and outsourcing company for the region, has teamed up with Monogram Food Solutions, maker of King Cotton products, to donate $7,500 to the Boys & Girls Clubs of Greater Memphis.

"This was our first engagement with Monogram so we thought what a great way to start a relationship by giving all the revenue back to the community," said Mark Giannini, founder and CEO of Service Assurance. "Monogram's values are very much in line with ours in that they love supporting the community, and they love children and nonprofits that help children.

"It was the absolute perfect way to start what we both hope is going to be a long-term business relationship."

The Boys & Girls Clubs of Greater Memphis was founded in 1955 and serves more than 5,000 youths between the ages of six and 18 through academic and recreational programs. The local Boys & Girls Clubs operates six full-service clubs, a technical training center and Camp Phoenix.

"Service Assurance and Monogram Foods made an investment," said Vincent Borello, president of the Boys & Girls Clubs of Greater Memphis. "They didn't really make a donation because in the long run these are the kids that are going to be working in the facilities, these are the families that are going to be buying their products, the families that make up our city." ... (read more)

A career of service for United Way's Harry Shaw

Feature profile for The Commercial Appeal

May 1, 2010

Harry Shaw never did work for an airline.

The president of United Way of the Mid-South retired in April having begun his tenure with the organization in 1969 when a friend suggested he apply for a job with United Fund, as it was then called.

"I'm thinking it had something to do with United Airlines," he said. "So I take the interview and I come home that day and tell my wife 'I never saw any airplanes on anybody's desk' and I don't know quite what this job is, but it did sound fascinating."

In his 22 years as president of United Way of the Mid-South, Shaw has seen donations rise from $11 million upon his arrival to just over $25 million now, partly by becoming more aggressive with grant writing. The needs of neighbors cut through politics, finance and celebrity, and Shaw, with his staff of 52, is reaching one-third of the population in eight counties within three states.

"Harry Shaw has done God's work -- striving to improve all segments of the community," said congressman Steve Cohen. "He has been an untiring leader. His compassion and drive will be difficult to replace. The Mid-South certainly has a stronger sense of community and is better off because of his efforts."... (read more)

Ritchey, MED Foundation get gritty for hospital

Memphis Standout Profile for The Memphis Daily News

April 30, 2010

When Memphians and those in the surrounding areas are faced with the trauma of a gunshot wound, life-threatening burn or car crash, chances are good that they’ll end up at The Regional Medical Center at Memphis.

For most of them, that visit is the difference between life and death.

Because of this, there is a scant degree of separation between most Memphians and The MED, said Tap into millions of public records, notices and articles on The Daily News.

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“There are not too many people who haven’t been touched by The MED in Shelby County,” she said.

To do the work the doctors and nurses of the trauma unit perform, tending to patients in what is known as “the golden hour” – those 60 minutes when critical care is at its most urgent – a certain “grittiness,” as Ritchey put it, is needed ... (read more)

Rowdy game of tag takes dad back to childhood

"Because I Said So" column for The Commercial Appeal

April 29, 2010

Last week we received a DVD from Netflix in the mail that has allowed us to stream movies and such into our television from the Internet.

It's as though the 21st century was delivered to our mailbox.

The following morning began with a film festival of classic cartoons created by Tex Avery and Chuck Jones for Warner Bros. The kids and I laughed aloud at the antics of Bugs Bunny, Elmer Fudd, Daffy Duck, Marvin the Martian, Wile E. Coyote and Roadrunner.

It was as though the 1940s were delivered to our living room.

The plot, as it were, of so many of these old cartoons is simple. It's the chase, the hunt. Elmer chased Bugs, Coyote chased Roadrunner, Sylvester chased Tweety, and Pepe Le Pew chased anything that moved.

So it was disheartening later that same evening to watch my kids, some friends and a cousin outside playing chase. Or, rather, attempting some awful approximation of the classic childhood activity ... (read more)

Skate park competes for $250,000 grant

Metro news story for The Commercial Appeal

April 25, 2010

Pepsi contest rewards community projects

A Memphis grassroots organization that advocates public skate parks is backing the Binghampton Development Corp.'s bid to win $250,000 for a park in the neighborhood.

Pepsi, through its site refresheverything.com, is awarding two organizations, people or businesses grants of up to $250,000 every month for one year for ideas that will have a positive impact on their communities.

"Memphis is two places from the bottom among the U.S. for the amount of money spent per person for parks and recreation," said Dr. Aaron Shafer, founder of the nonprofit Skatelife Memphis and a researcher at St. Jude Children's Research Hospital. "This is an incredible opportunity for churches to cooperate together and bring in some funds for their communities."

On Saturday, the Binghampton Development Corp. -- under the headline "Get our kids Moving! Build a skate park for inner-city Memphis youth" -- was ranked No. 16 among "Current Leaders" in the $250,000 category. Voting ends April 30 ... (read more)

Restaurateurs find opportunities in new technology

Feature story for The Memphis Daily News

April 22, 2010

Nowadays there’s a cell phone app for nearly everything – and restaurant reservations are no exception.

That’s not been lost on local restaurateurs, who are embracing online reservations and finding that they are weathering the struggling economy better as a result.

“In an economy like this, we can’t leave any stone unturned, especially when people are cutting costs on dining,” said Josh Spotts, catering sales and conference service manager for The Madison Hotel, which operates Grill 83.

“You can get full off a hamburger at McDonald’s, but is that the experience that you want?”

Among the most popular apps available is OpenTable.com, a Web-based program offering reservation and table management services in real time for more than 12,000 restaurants worldwide.

Founded in 1998, OpenTable now seats about 4 million diners per month and has done so for more than 130 million since its inception.

The mobile app was launched in November 2008, and has been used by more than 2 million, a number that represents about $100 million to restaurant partners, according to OpenTable ... (read more)

Treehouse is platform for flights of daring

"Because I Said So" column for The Commercial Appeal

April 15, 2010

My children's aunt and uncle, Elizabeth and Toby, just returned from a 10-day trip to Spain. They visited the village of Robledillo de la Jara and the metropolis of Madrid. They sampled new foods, saw centuries-old architecture, watched a bullfight and met new and exciting people.

My family and I recently returned from the local hardware store just off Summer Avenue.

We spent my wife's -- she's a school teacher -- and kids' spring break building a tree house and planting a garden.

The house is 7 feet off the ground with a zip line that will carry a kid 50 feet through the grove of pine trees behind our house. The only thing missing at this point is any sort of railing, some type of safety precaution.

Despite the lack of safety (or maybe because of it), this is the tree house I always wanted as a child. A Swiss Family Robinson structure, a home that would have made Tarzan proud.

Some people, especially here in the South, may look at it and think "deer stand," but I know differently. In my mind it rivals Frank Lloyd Wright's house, Fallingwater, for design and placement within nature.

It is Falling Daughter ... (read more)

Economist to address influence of big banks

Business news story for The Commercial Appeal

April 10, 2010

Is a financial system dominated by giant banking institutions good for business?

Dr. Paul Merski says that's a question that deserves an answer, and he plans to offer his insights next week in Memphis.

The Rhodes Chapter of the Financial Management Association and the Department of Economics and Business will host Merski's lecture, "Financial and Economic Outlook: A View from Washington," on Wednesday.

Merski is the senior vice president and chief economist for the Independent Community Bankers of America, an organization representing 5,000 community banks of all sizes throughout the United States.

"I'll be looking at where we've come from in the past few years with the large financial crisis and the meltdown in the financial sector largely caused by the too-big-to-fail Wall Street banks," Merski said recently by phone from his office in Washington ... (read more)

Autism center provides intense therapy to transform childrens' behavior

Business news story for The Commercial Appeal

April 9, 2010

Tracy Palm, executive director of Transformations Autism Treatment Center, simply wants the parents of children with autism spectrum disorders to have hope.

"I get so many families that come into my office who have completely lost their hope that their child will ever be able to do anything, even speak," she said.

"What I want them to know and understand is that these kids make progress ... they just need the right therapy to be happening in their life at that time."

Palm, a board-certified behavior analyst, began Transformations in 2007 and moved into a new facility on the edge of Bartlett in Memphis last January. The center, at 2535 Whitten Road, is just off Interstate 40 and is accessible to clients who come from as far away as Forrest City, Ark. The one-story, brick building is 2,500 square feet sectioned into rooms for group activities such as music and art, as well as private rooms where counselors can work with clients one on one ... (read more)

Art infusion: local artists look to beef up market in Midtown

Small business spotlight for The Memphis Daily News

April 6, 2010

Frank Roberts, the owner of nine businesses in six buildings known collectively as The Palladio Group, understands the way to best use retail space.

When his tenant at 2256 Central Ave., Artists on Central, with its various art vendors and flea market feel, fell on difficult times in 2008, Roberts felt that the century-old house could be used better. He wanted to upgrade the offerings and inject the Cooper-Young area with fine art.

“Artists on Central had an image that was not consistent, nor could it be made consistent with our vision, and where there’s no vision, people perish,” said Roberts, whose background is in architecture and home building. “So we wanted to be sure there was a very clear vision and a deliberately chosen and focused point to reach that vision: a true fine art gallery, a sophisticated gallery, not intimidating and stuffy.” ... (read more)

Firm wants to bring top talent to Memphis

Small business spotlight for The Memphis Daily News

April 5, 2010

Chris Chotard sees himself as a coach recruiting members to business teams throughout Memphis.

He founded his company, Top Notch, last year to bring the brightest college students to Memphis to spend eight weeks working for some of the most well known mid-level companies in the city.

“Some of the best marketers, best recruiters out there are college football coaches and their staff, or college basketball, and they’re selling very similar things,” Chotard said. “They’re trying to sell the city of Memphis as a place to live for a short period of time and they’re trying to recruit the best talent from cities around the country as well as locally.”

Chotard employs the same tactics to get the best to Memphis. And the mid-size businesses are his bread and butter ... (read more)

City pass would defray cost of 'I don't know' visits

"Because I Said So" column in The Commercial Appeal

April 1, 2010

The first question out of my children's mouths every Saturday morning is usually, "Are we going anywhere today?"

The past couple of weeks, with spring in the air, I've told the housebound foursome that, "Yes, you're going outside."

But outside won't do. The backyard is not far enough away from the inside, requires much less effort to get there and much -- much -- less expense than traveling across town to ... where?

"Where would you like to go?" I ask them.

"I don't know."

I Don't Know. It's a faraway land of exotic promises and myriad possibilities. With a coastline on the Sea of Shrug, it borders the land of Mumbletopia and is inhabited by people other than, and much more fascinating than, their mother and me. It is a domain so vast as to be vague.

What is it these kids wish for? I don't know ... (read more)

Cody named co-chair of Society of Attorneys General Emeritus

Law Talk profile for The Memphis Daily News

April 1, 2010

Michael Cody of Burch, Porter & Johnson PLLC was recently named co-chairman of the Society of Attorneys General Emeritus (SAGE).

SAGE is an organization formed in 1990 as a compliment to the National Association of Attorneys General, the 50-member group of active AGs. Cody was attorney general of Tennessee from 1984 to 1988. His co-chair is former attorney general and governor of New Hampshire, Stephen E. Merrill.

“What we (SAGE) do is a nice relationship, because current attorneys general can use our group as sort of a resource to talk with, we help them with programs,” Cody said. “It serves the purpose of us actually being a helpful part of their organization and giving us an opportunity to get together twice a year.”

Cody began his career with Burch, Porter & Johnson in 1961 under Lucius Burch, whom Cody considers a mentor. Except for his years in public service as attorney general, U.S. Attorney for the Western District of Tennessee (1977-1981) and Memphis City Council (1975-1977), his entire law career has been spent at the law firm housed in the old Tennessee Club building overlooking Court Square ... (read more)

Stephenson finds success in Memphis

Feature profile in The Memphis Daily News

March 29, 2010

Susan Stephenson grew up in East Tennessee and followed her heart to Memphis when a young man she knew decided to attend graduate school here.

She ended up falling in love with a city instead.

“You don’t get to pick where you start, but you get to pick where you end and this is the place where I chose to build my life and my family and my career, and it’s where I choose to end,” Stephenson said. “I really genuinely love this city.”

The CEO and co-founder of Independent Bank never intended to enter the world of banking. Her liberal arts education in history and English from the University of Tennessee suggested a different track altogether, one that might have included teaching had she not ended up in the corporate training program at First Tennessee ... (read more)

Memphian relishes writing role as second story hits the shelves

Feature profile for The Commercial Appeal

March 28, 2010

Memphian Molly Caldwell Crosby credits her career as an author in the narrative non-fiction genre to her time as a researcher for writers at National Geographic magazine and a "morbid attraction to tragic stories."

"It (narrative non-fiction) tends to be a lot of hurricanes and earthquakes and great fires," she said, "not exactly uplifting."

Crosby's second book, "Asleep: The Forgotten Epidemic that Remains One of Medicine's Greatest Mysteries" (Berkley Books, $24.95), was released earlier this month. It's the story of the sleeping sickness, or encephalitis lethargica, of the early 1900s, an epidemic that rode in on the wave of the Spanish flu outbreak of the time.

Falling into long sleeps for weeks or months, the victims totaled 5 million, with nearly a third of them dying. The disease would later be the focus for Oliver Sacks' book "Awakenings" and the movie of the same name.

Crosby, 37, grew up in Dallas and moved to Memphis to attend Rhodes College, where she graduated in 1995 with a degree in English with an emphasis in creative writing ... (read more)

Lexus nexus: Car dealer opens its showroom for nonprofits' special events

Corporate Giving story for The Commercial Appeal

March 19, 2010

Instead of a flower arrangement or ice sculpture at your next fundraiser, imagine a sleek black Lexus LS10 as the focal point.

Lexus of Memphis has been offering its two showrooms, with a total of 10,000 square feet of black marble tile and blond wood, located at 2600 Ridgeway Road for area nonprofits to host parties, banquets and galas.

"It's been an opportunity for us to do something that is an easy thing for us to do in the store," said Bryan Smith, general sales manager of Lexus of Memphis. "It's low cost to us, but can be a real benefit to the organizations that we partner with."

The building, in East Memphis just off Bill Morris Parkway on Ridgeway, making it easily accessible from all over town, was built six years ago for $12 million. In addition to the high end look of the tiling and wood interior, the space is well-lit and doors can be flung open in nice weather for guests to spill out onto a makeshift patio. There is a kitchen in the back for catering ... (read more)

Daddy's little flock is aflutter constantly

"Because I Said So" column for The Commercial Appeal

March 18, 2010

Our house is square like a doughnut.

In the center of the house is a courtyard, and that is where I have amassed a collection of feeders in the hopes of attracting birds.

All a tired father of four wants on some days is to sit quietly and watch the finches alight on the branches of the crape myrtle, enjoying a safe place to eat. It's the same principle behind my parenting; no one wants to see my kids foraging through their backyard for nuts and berries and Cheetos.

When it comes to communing with nature, though, my kids have other designs. They want to flit around and jump up and down, twitching and turning their heads this way and that like nervous mockingbirds.

And, oh, they mock me ... (read more)

Good news: Architect's passion for building goes beyond property to character, lives

Good News feature profile for The Commercial Appeal

March 16, 2010

Michael Walker builds houses and office buildings. He has built characters as an actor on stage and backdrops for those characters to move around. And he's helping build self-esteem and future success for a handful of young men at Manassas High School, both on and off the football field, as a volunteer coach and mentor.

Walker is the owner of Walkerarch LLC. Even as a child, the drawing, designing and creativity of his craft piqued his interest.

"We lived in a lot of new neighborhoods because of the moving (when his father was transferred for work), so I was always around construction and loved seeing things being built," he said. "As a kid, I was always building stuff or always had a project going of some sort, whether it was building a fort or models."

Born in Barrington, Ill., Walker attended DePauw University in Greencastle, Ind. On a break from school, his father, knowing his son's interests and creativity, took him to meet an architect friend.

"My father literally walked me to his office and I said, 'Yeah, I love that, the detail of a section and how you make it look like stone or wood or insulation.' " ... (read more)

My Profession: Health care administration

My Profession profile for The Commercial Appeal

March 10, 2010

George Hernandez is a man on the move.

As the new CEO of Campbell Clinic, Hernandez is charged with carrying the 100-year-old orthopedic clinic into its next century of operation. He took the reins from former CEO John Vines, who retired Dec. 31.

Hernandez, 57, now oversees an organization that is at the top of its field in orthopedic surgery in the Mid-South, produces the top-selling textbook on orthopedics in the world, Campbell's Operative Orthopedics, and facilitates research in its field and the training of physicians domestically and internationally.

In addition, Campbell Clinic works with orthopedic implant manufacturers such as Smith & Nephew to develop new implants and devices for use in surgery.

"The support staff and I are here to provide the framework that allows the doctors to practice their skill, and that's to treat patients with orthopedic problems," Hernandez said ... (read more)

Oscar un-worthy films can be more fun to talk about than the best flicks

Lifestyle cover feature for The Commercial Appeal

March 4, 2010

"You don't understand. I coulda' had class. I coulda' been a contender. I coulda' been somebody ..."

The line is from "On the Waterfront," and the film was certainly more than a contender. One of the greats, it garnered eight Academy Awards for 1954, including best picture, director, actor and actress.

But what of the others? In a year that saw 1,870 films released, according to the Internet Movie Database (imdb.com), they couldn't have all been great, they couldn't all be contenders.

Sure, there was "The Caine Mutiny," "Rear Window," "Dial M For Murder" and "20,000 Leagues Under The Sea," but not every movie would go on to become mainstays in popular culture. Some had to be bums.

In just a few days, film buffs will be abuzz with the winners from the 82nd Annual Academy Awards, where the best of the best will be honored.

While it is an honor just to be nominated, what of those that aren't? "Paul Blart: Mall Cop" isn't nominated for Best Picture. Neither is "Crank: High Voltage," "G-Force" nor "2012." Are these the worst films of last year, or will they one day be included on someone's list of the worst of all time? ... (read more)

Surprise! Not. Scheduled birth steals dad's big moment

"Because I Said So" column for The Commercial Appeal

March 4, 2010

My little sister is having a baby today. Probably as you read this over your Corn Flakes and coffee, she's having an epidural catheter inserted into her back to administer anesthesia into her spine.

Sorry.

This is actually her second baby, the first a girl almost three years ago. She knows she's having the baby today because, in the new tradition of the time, it's all planned out.

The appointment, whether inducement, C-section or natural, takes some of the guesswork out of the process, and that's fine because I've come to learn that everything after "It's a boy!" is guesswork. But it also removes that element of surprise, the midnight wake-up call that something is happening, something very exciting.

Get up! This is it! We have to go! ... (read more)

Carpenter finds new creative life with latest venture

New small business profile for The Daily News

February 26, 2010

Seven months after leaving the advertising agency that bore his name, Doug Carpenter has quietly hung out the shingle for his new venture, Doug Carpenter & Associates.

Devoted to advertising, public relations and consulting, Carpenter used social media to get the word out.

“My coming out was in the form of an e-mail to my database and a Facebook page,” he said. “And the response has been overwhelming.”

Carpenter in July sold his interest in the advertising firm carpenter | sullivan | sossaman – now known as CS2 – to fellow managing principal Brian Sullivan ... (read more)

Community college assignment evovles into exhaustively researched book

Rebecca Skloot's "The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks" reaches No. 4 on Amazon Books Bestsellers List

Feature profile for The Commercial Appeal

February 21, 2010

For Rebecca Skloot, creative nonfiction professor at the University of Memphis, immortality is at hand with her new book, "The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks" (Crown, $26).

Born in Springfield, Ill., Skloot moved to Portland, Ore., early with her father, author Floyd Skloot, and mother, Betsy McCarthy, a hospital administrator and "professional knitter" who has published a book on the subject.

A self-proclaimed "derelict kid," Skloot failed her first year of high school and didn't excel academically until forced to attend community college at the age of 16 to make up high school credits.

"I had some issues with the traditional school system and eventually ended up at this alternative high school. ... It was like a hippie school, like a holdover from Oregon in the '60s, where we had dream studies instead of science," she said ... (read more)

The Palladio Group fundraiser aids Mid-South Food Bank

Corporate Giving story for The Commercial Appeal

February 19, 2010

The Palladio Group, a collection of nine entities representing art galleries, showrooms and antique shops in six buildings in Cooper-Young, recently donated $1,500 to the Mid-South Food Bank, a sum that equates to more than 3,500 meals.

"Traditionally at year-end we have done a customer appreciation where we pay the tax or hold an event, and it was nice, but we thought we could include someone else," said Frank Roberts who, along with his wife, Mindy, owns The Palladio Group.

The fundraiser took place the last week of December and first week of January, a time that is notoriously quiet for nonprofits.

"The food bank is a worthwhile organization in our community and we thought it a particularly good time," Roberts said ... (read more)

Teacher star of the show at career day

Because I Said So column for The Commercial Appeal

February 18, 2010

I was invited to Richland Elementary School to speak to Ms. Darnell's second-grade class for career day last week. I prepared for it much the way I prepare to write for this column, over a cup of coffee and at the last minute. I figured I'd wander into the classroom around noon or so, mug of coffee in hand and, possibly, in my bathrobe. Just like any freelance writer anywhere.

I didn't, though. I woke at a respectable hour, showered and dressed presentably. And I finished my coffee at home.

Fifteen minutes trying to explain what you do and why you do it to 25 7-year-olds is daunting. Most kids, I think, don't fully understand what their parents do every day once they leave the house. How do you describe human resource management or certified public accountant to a kid whose hero is a little two-dimensional, mustachioed man named Mario? If you were leaving the house each day to traipse through different worlds, squashing mushrooms and jumping on turtles, well, that would be easy. To this day, all I really know about my own mother's career is that she does "something with computers." . . . (read more)

No tired hang-ups here: Midtown shop reflects owner's exuberance, expertise

Small business profile for The Commercial Appeal

February 15, 2010

The sign reads: It's never too late to live happily ever after. Not only is the message a poignant one, but it is beautifully matted and framed as well.

For Danny Bubnick, happily ever after began at the end of last year when he opened Midtown Framer & Art at 1523 Union Ave.

"I'm feeling very good," Bubnick said. "People are extremely supportive."

Bubnick was manager for BA Framer in Midtown for 20 years until it closed, as did all its stores nationwide, in 2009. He brings his knowledge and a passion for the business to his new concern. When BA Framer announced its imminent closing, Bubnick knew he needed to act quickly and, while he looked elsewhere, he knew Midtown was where he needed to be.

"I didn't want to lose customers and we wanted to work closely with artists," he said.

Bubnick contacted property owner Jim Kinsinger about the 6,000 square foot space, known as Union House, and a four-year lease was signed for an undisclosed amount. Ten days after his previous employer closed its doors, Bubnick opened in his new home ... (read more)

Memphian's valentines spread love to people who don't otherwise get any

Profile/human interest story for The Commercial Appeal

February 14, 2010

Dixie Brown is not your typical cupid. She has no wings, no bow and arrow, and cherubic may have been an adjective used to describe her more than five decades ago when she married and moved south from Brookline, Mass.

Yet every year since 1979, Brown has helped to put a smile on people's faces by sending out hundreds of "penny cards" to the elderly, who normally may not receive anything on Valentine's Day.

The cards started as an extension of her work with Sacred Heart Church here and her visitations with shut-ins.

"I met a retired first-grade teacher, and the good Lord whispered in my ear that I could send her a valentine," Brown said, "and that year she got 25 of them and it tickled her."... (read more)

Corporate Giving: Wachovia Wells Fargo Foundation

Corporate Giving story for The Commercial Appeal

February 12, 2010

Porter-Leath, the 160-year-old resource for at-risk families in Memphis, recently received a $5,000 donation from the Wachovia Wells Fargo Foundation. The money was donated through the bank's newest branch at 42 S. Claybrook.

"Porter-Leath does such a good job at servicing at-risk families in our community and battling infant mortality in Memphis," said Tom Patronis, Memphis market president for Wachovia. "They're very important to us and a particular passion of mine."

The contribution will go to directly toward Cornerstone, Porter-Leath's early childhood home visitation program. The program sends AmeriCorps workers into the homes of new and soon-to-be mothers.

"They work with them (mothers) throughout pregnancy to help reach a healthy birth weight of 5.5 pounds, which we do 93.4 percent of the time," said Mike Warr, vice president of development for Porter-Leath. Effectiveness is monitored by the University of Tennessee Health Science Center ... (read more)

Leap of faith: Former commodities futures trader dives into market

My Profession business profile for The Commercial Appeal

February 11, 2010

In spring 2009, Richard Morrow willingly jumped from the reasonably sound ship of commodities futures trading into the sinking boat of stocks and bonds.

"In commodities, what you do is get a small percentage of someone's high-risk capital because commodities are considered risky," Morrow said. "I've always wanted to manage a bigger piece of someone's pie, so to speak."

For the previous 20 years, Morrow had managed individual and institutional accounts in the commodities futures market for Bondurant Futures. He went with Wunderlich Securities during what he calls "ground zero for the financial meltdown" to manage individual and institutional client portfolios using an equity and bond-based platform that does not include futures trading.

"In commodities, we were relatively unscathed by all that (financial meltdown), so I didn't have the financial and emotional baggage of a blow-up," Morrow said. "I was essentially an observer, upset for my friends and country, but for the most part I averted disaster." ... (read more)

Read it and weep: No shame in shedding a few tears, more men realize

Lifestyle feature for The Commercial Appeal

February 9, 2010

As the irascible Jimmy Dugan in 1992's "A League of Their Own," Tom Hanks shouts "Are you crying? There's no crying. There's no crying in baseball!"

In that scene, Hanks berates one of his players -- a woman -- who can't keep it together. The women of that film's World War II era were expected to be tough and to carry the burden for their absent husbands.

Today, as well, women are expected to be thick-skinned from the cubicle up to the boardroom. Mary Tyler Moore, in the early 1970s, may be the last known woman in America to cry unabashedly to her boss.

Once women began the big shift from the home sphere to the workplace, ideas about "ladylike" behavior began to shift as well. But what about our attitude toward men showing their softer side? ... (read more)

Cozy fire a fine spot to ponder fatherhood

"Because I Said So" column for The Commercial Appeal

February 4, 2010

Can we make parenting a seasonal activity, like baseball or yard work?

I am not a winter parent. I'm pretty good in the spring and summer when I'm happy to get out and fill up the inflatable pool or work in the garden. Or at least to sit and watch the children doing those things nearby.

But in the winter, on days when the temperature can barely push above 20 degrees and ice is caked on the ground like it was last weekend, all I want is to lie around with a book in the ridiculously expensive heat we're paying for. All I really want is for my kids to want to do the same thing.

They do not.

They want to go out and taste the ground cover, see the freeze up-close and throw it on each other. My fatherly instincts tell me that I should at least want to be out there with them, mixing it up on the lawn and putting together a snowman.

I do not ... (read more)

Life in anti-mustache house requires stiff upper lip

Because I Said So column for The Commercial Appeal

January 21, 2010

As the parents of four children, my wife and I knew full well that we would, at age-appropriate intervals, need to have some uncomfortable and awkward conversations with the kids.

In addition to general safety concerns, healthy eating, school grades, college and, of course, "the talk," there would need to be many discussions of personal hygiene and bodily upkeep before they are unleashed into the community among decent people.

I won't go into those conversations in detail here, such is the personal nature of the subject, but suffice it to say that soap, deodorant, underwear, feet and fingernails will come into play if they haven't already. For the two girls there will be other discussions, possibly including bar graphs, pie charts, ice cream, lunar calendars and a PowerPoint presentation.

I'll leave all that up to their mother ... (read more)

Philanthropy instilled at an early age, Pat Carter still giving back at 71

Good News feature for The Commercial Appeal

January 19, 2010

Though he has sat on the boards of organizations, been inducted into halls of fame across the country and is deacon with Whitehaven's Middle Baptist Church, Pat Carter is a man who avoids committees when it comes to getting real work done.

Case in point: Carter and a handful of friends have been feeding the homeless Downtown in Confederate Park every Labor Day for 25 years with little more than his own barbecue grill and the determination that has kept this self-made man going for most of his 71 years.

"I think we can do more (ourselves), rather than depending on an organization," Carter said. "For years no one knew I was cooking for the homeless because I never told anyone. I do it every year because no one wants to cook for the homeless on Labor Day."

It's this taking of the reins that has guided Carter's life from the age of 12, when he set up a Kool-Aid stand in the front yard of his Raleigh home, catering to the church down the street whose members would filter down for refreshment after service.

"People were laughing at me, they thought it was funny, but I had $1,200 in my savings account when I was 12," he said ... (read more)

Memphis Crossroads Magazine

Three feature stories for the Winter 2010 issue of Memphis Crossroads Magazine.

Santa is gone, but dad is still watching

"Because I Said So" column for The Commercial Appeal

January 7, 2009

The Christmas holidays are over.

Do you know how I know this? Because the lights have been pulled down from the front of the house, the tree is lying at the curb, there are no sweets baking in the kitchen and the trash talking from my children is in full swing.

The kids got a Wii for Christmas. It's the first appearance of a video game in our home in the 12 years we've had kids and they are suddenly competitive. They have quickly, in the malleable nature of smallish children, become expert runners, jumpers, skiers, bowlers and kung-fu fighters.

And experts at bragging and talking smack and, frankly, it's beginning to hurt my feelings ... (read more)